¿Qué pasaría si fuésemos educados emocionalmente en todos los ámbitos para aprender a “bienvenir”? Tal vez aprenderíamos también a despedir. Pues, si de palabras se trata, en ésa hay un secreto escondido, y sin embargo muy a la vista. Des-pedir es eso: DEJAR DE PEDIRLE NINGUNA COSA A AQUELLO QUE EN VERDAD YA NO TIENE NADA PARA DARNOS. ¡Y qué bueno es dejar de pedir a quien no nos va a dar! ¡Cuánto dolor nos generamos con la actitud contraria! Si comprendemos ese sentido del des-pedir, y lo corolamos con el significado del bien-venir, el movimiento interno se direcciona hacia algo mejor que lo que había.

Creo que esto funciona así inclusive cuando “bienvenimos” a lo que es inevitablemente doloroso; hoy se sabe desde las neurociencias lo que las psicologías de Oriente expresaron hace siglos: que el dolor (emocional o físico) se incrementa si tenemos una actitud de rechazo hacia él. Re-negar es eso: “¡¡¡No quiero, no quiero y no quiero que esto sea lo que es!!!” Cuando re-negamos del dolor nos rigidizamos, y el dolor se nos incrusta ferozmente, como quien queriendo sacarse un vidrio de la planta del pie patea contra el suelo. El psiquiatra transpersonal Roberto Assagioli lo decía de un modo muy simple: que en esos casos “hay que aprender a colaborar con lo inevitable”. Porque la otra actitud solo nos daña más.

La resultante es, entonces, que si lúcidamente damos la bienvenida a lo ineludiblemente doloroso (tomándonos el tiempo para encontrar esa sabiduría emocional dentro nuestro) podremos “bienvenir” también lo venturoso, en ese juego de tres movimientos: des-aferrarnos, amigarnos con el vacío fértil y dejar que lo nuevo “venga”.

¿De qué manera este texto se relaciona con tu vida de hoy? ¿Qué sentipensares te despiertan estos conceptos? Me quedo aquí, escuchándote con mis ojos… ¡Te abrazo!

Virginia Gawel


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